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    March 26

    No Aspergers here

    After years of wondering, and months of waiting. we finally found out B does not have Aspergers :)

    There are some issues, and we still have one more doctor to see.

    ~ D ~
    March 12

    Ooster Egg Day

    According to S, Ooster Egg day is coming soon :)

    ~ D ~

    March 09

    The mom Quiz

    A Friend tagged me with this on Facebook.   I thought i would post it here :)

    S - age 5

    1. What is something mom always says to you?
    I don't know, clean up

    2. What makes mom happy?
    by buying her stuff and cleaning up for her

    3. What makes mom sad?
    hurting her feelings

    4. How does your mom make you laugh?
    Tickle

    5. What was your mom like as a child?
    Winnie the pooh

    6. How old is your mom?
    14 (theme for 4-5 year olds?)

    7. How tall is your mom?
    like 26

    8. What is her favorite thing to do?
    watch winnie the pooh

    9. What does your mom do when you're not around?
    drive

    10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for?
    i don't know

    11. What is your mom really good at?
    making stuff, your really good to me by making stuff

    12. What is your mom not very good at?
    painting, grandmas very good at painting, shes an artist

    13. What does your mom do for her job?
    work

    14. What's your mom's favorite food?
    i don't know

    15. What makes you proud of your mom?
    giving stuff to me

    16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
    i don't know, maybe an artist

    17. What do you and your mom do together?
    i forgot what?

    18. How are you and your mom the same?
    because we have curly hair

    19. How are you and your mom different?
    cause your bigger then me, because i am littlier and have different cloths

    20. How do you know your mom loves you?
    cause i am her daugter

    21. Where is your mom's favorite place to go?
    maybe to the store

    B - age 12

    1. What is something mom always says to you?

    I love you

    2. What makes mom happy?
    Tigger and pooh

    3. What makes mom sad?

    When someone does not listen

    4. How does your mom make you laugh?

    tickles me

    5. What was your mom like as a child?
    I don't know

    6. How old is your mom?
    Real age, i am not telling :)

    7. How tall is your mom?
    i don't know

    8. What is her favorite thing to do?
    watch tigger and pooh

    9. What does your mom do when you're not around?
    i don't know

    10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for?
    computer work

    11. What is your mom really good at?
    computer work

    12. What is your mom not very good at?
    math, no wait you are good at math, i don't know

    13.What does your mom do for her job?
    work at Microsoft

    14. What's your mom's favorite food?
    mozzarella sticks

    15. What makes you proud of your mom?
    working at Microsoft

    16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
    winnie the pooh, or tigger or piglet or eeyore all of the chars of winnie the pooh

    17. What do you and your mom do together?
    cuddle

    18. How are you and your mom the same?
    we both like to cuddle

    19. How are you and your mom different?
    She likes to work on computers and i don't

    20. How do you know your mom loves you?
    She tells me a lot and shows me

    21. Where is your mom's favorite place to go?
    her room, no wait disneyland
    K _ age 11

    1. What is something mom always says to you?
    Kaitie bug

    2. What makes mom happy?
    Tigger

    3. What makes mom sad?
    tigger and pooh being canceled

    4. How does your mom make you laugh?
    She just does

    5. What was your mom like as a child?
    beauty queen, she was a queen.  I forget which one.

    6. How old is your mom?
    15 (she changed based on my frown at her ;) )

    7. How tall is your mom?
    How tall are you? i don't know.

    8. What is her favorite thing to do?
    Suduko, i think, no watch tigger and pooh

    9. What does your mom do when you're not around?
    work

    10. If your mom becomes famous, what will it be for?
    play poker

    11. What is your mom really good at?
    being a mom (my favorite :)  )

    12. What is your mom not very good at?
    remembering to by lottery tickets

    13. What does your mom do for her job?
    works on computers

    14. What's your mom's favorite food?
    cinnamon twist

    15. What makes you proud of your mom?
    when she gets a lottery ticket

    16. If your mom were a cartoon character, who would she be?
    tigger

    17. What do you and your mom do together?
    Sudoku

    18. How are you and your mom the same?
    we like Sudoku

    19. How are you and your mom different?
    our age

    20. How do you know your mom loves you?
    she tells me she loves me alot

    21. Where is your mom's favorite place to go?
    to the spa

    October 30

    It is so sad the wish died!

    S who is 4 loves dandelions, you make a wish and blow!  I have a couple of those in my yard, and it is fall.  The other day she looks down and says "Mommy, it is so sad, this wish is dead"

    Ah to be that innocent again :)

    ~ D ~
    September 16

    Torment in disguise - Orlando

     

    I am a HUGE Disney fan.  I have never been to Orlando, so the news that I get to go there for a conference next week should be good. 

    *Should Be*

    In reality I am there for a conference that has me booked the whole time; 9 hours days, at the end of which I have to take 2 Certification tests.  They will not send any of the study materials before hand, and several people who have taking the test expressed that the wording is very confusing.  Figures :)

    The conference is actually at one of the Disney resorts, so every second I will see people coming and going from all the different parks and I will be STUDYING.

    It is inhumane, really.

    I think I have arranged 1 - 1.5 days to spend at the parks.  The thing is how to decide which ones to go to?  I am thinking Disney's wild Kingdom (full day)  and Epcot (.5 day).    I have been to Disneyland, so Disney World is not my first choice.  However, I would like to see the Cinderella castle. 

    Any advice?

    Tormented,

    ~ d ~

    September 10

    We did have a birthday party to celebrate

    So John did take Hardware Junkie up on his advice and we had a really fun party.  I really appreciate everyone who came, many traveled far to make it, and it was very special.

    In case you are wondering, staple guns are essential to parties that are outside in case there is a hurricane that day (there was BTW).  Having plates stapled to the table works well to keep food in place but makes clean up difficult.

    On a sad note for me, it is apparent that some friends no longer reciprocate friendship. I make an effort every year to send a happy birthday note to them despite not hearing from them.  I sent invitations to my birthday and received no response at all.  No sorry we can't make it or even a brief happy birthday. 

    So raise a toast for me, that 40 will prove to be more happy then the last couple.

    ~ D ~

    September 06

    Castles for Hillbillies

    I am having this insomniatic mania to blog, so here it goes !!

    The birthday girl was expressing interest in solving the worlds housing issues.  Her new theory goes something like this “ We should build a huge castle where everyone in the world would have their own room.  Especially the homeless people* and hillbillies**”

    No idea why (insomniatic mania?), but this reminded me of a bumper sticker that caught my attention the other day:

    Republicans for Voldemort***”

    Which leads me to my last thought, I think it is obvious why …

    Don’t tell Ramina, but I am actually eyeing a republican that I may think about considering not voting against in the up coming elections****.

    signed by one very sleepy,

    ~ d ~

    * no offense meant to home deprived people by comparing them to hillbillies

    ** I did not point out that we need extra yard space for the rusting heaps some hillbillies mistake for yard decor

    *** I added a link to wikipedia on Voldemort in case you don’t know.  However, if you really don’t know you are most likely at the wrong blog, because, well, it is Voldemort.  Shhh…. don’t say his name again.

    **** Yes that was worded in a way that could potentially mislead the reader and cause more confusion.  You can blame the republican party this year for messing with my mind.

    September 05

    From newborn to Tween in 60 seconds

    Today is K's 11th birthday.  I suspect that every mom reflects back to the day their child was born on birthdays.  The experience is so different with each child.

    The day K was born was the same day as Princess Diana's funeral.  I held my newborn child and admired how Princess Diana had been one of the great Mother Role Models.  I hoped at the time that I could be as dedicated to my children.  I have to say that has not happened.

    I don't think anyone can say I don't love my children as much as any other mother.  I just have so many other things going on in my life.  I have always been career focused, and now that I am a single mom don't have much of a choice. 

    If I stayed home and dedicated my self to raising my kids, what would life be like now? How would my kids lives be different?  Other then broke, because then I would be a single mom with limited career options :)

    ~ D ~

    September 04

    40 and BLONDE!

    Time to face some hard truths

    I am blonde and 40

    At this point you are either rolling on the floor laughing or so shocked you are

    re-reading the first two lines

     

    Things to note:

    • So far I am not having more fun
    • Not blurting out blonde jokes borders on impossible
    • I get very odd looks when the blonde joke makes it out of my mouth

     

    Explaining that I am 40 clears up some of the odd looks :)

    In dire situations I have to play the single mom of 3 card

    This changes the looks to pity and the subject drops

    Occasionally the person acts like 40, blonde, and single mom are contagious and moves to a distance where we can continue conversing in our outside voices

    ~ D ~ 

     

    August 08

    40 is Looming

    OK, I admit it, I am not turning 29 again.  I am turning FORTY.  I really thought I would have my life more together at this point, but certain things seem to have gotten in my way.
     
    To have a party or not?  For a while I thought I would, it is FORTY after all.  Now it just seems too late to plan anything.  Is three weeks too little time to plan?
    July 24

    Sell or not to sell?

    I am going back and forth about whether to *attempt* to sell the house.
     
    On one hand it is a maintenance disaster with only me and the three kids; I should spend all my time doing house/yard work to keep it well maintaned.  As it is I just do the urgent tasks, and if lucky the kids will helpful and things actually get done.  It is getting better since we all moved upstairs.  The house is actually decent most of time.
     
    Some of the neighbors don't like me because of the way I left my husband.  They obviously don't know the whole story as to why I left in, and I am not going to tell them.  They just saw the aftermath and how devestated he was.  
     
    Looking at rentals in the School district, I will not save anything in monthly payments by selling.  The only advantage is that I can pay off some bills.  Bills are killing me, in addition to summer daycare costing more then my orginal estimate,  K's health issues have us completly out of benefits for her until Jan, so I am paying hundreds of dollars a month.
     
    Maybe renting out the downstairs is an option.  The washer and dryer are down there, but if i could rent to another responsible single mom that could work out well.
     
    My experiences in the past 3 years have left me a bit skeptical about whether or not I could trust anyone.  
     
    ~ D ~
    July 21

    Flittering

    How can you focus on one thing when there are so many things that need attention.  My mind flitters need to fix holes in wall if I decide to sell house, did I cover security adequately in my test plan, how to find tools for the new feature, those people have no idea how to ship, there were a couple more in there that I forgot already.  Stress puts my mind in hyper drive.  I juggle it all and the immediate things get done
     
    I really need a tiiny post it note set with lines, and different colors with a book to organize them.  It does not have to be so organized that the catagorizes are anything other then "work" " high pri work" "not work" "high pri not work".  it has to be compact and have a small pen that never gets lost. 
     
    At least then i would be sane.  Now it all flitters over and over "new page needs...","i need to tell my sister..." "such in such is stressed about this I should refer them too....", k needs another blood test...",  'forot to tell mom..", "need better male role models for the kids", "will the neighbors really complain if my dog gets out next time", etc etc
     
    ~ d
    July 17

    Haunted

     

    Ghosts or Demons?  My two oldest have been afraid of ghosts or demons lately.  Nightmares.  Several debates have been had by them about whether they are ghosts or demons, and the difference between the two.

    I think they are the same.  I think we are haunted by the past, things that have happened that the kids don’t understand. The ghosts and demons keep us awake and haunted. 

    They aren’t real ghosts of course, but ghosts all the same. 

    An escalation in these fears and not being able to sleep has been followed by the news that my ex and his girlfriend have split for the same reasons I left him.  My ghosts and demons aren’t related to guilt for once.  Who listens to warnings when the prince appears to be a prince and not a toad?

    ~ d

    July 10

    Fear of slugs

    Slugs *shudder* are slimy, alien looking creatures that leave gunk over everything. 
     
    If the slime itself was not gross enough, it is impossible to get off fingers.  I bet there is a market for slug slime removal.
     
    Their antenna are even slimy. 
     
    !!  YUCK !! 
     
     
     
    For those of you who have laughed at my slug phobia for years, check out this article about Killer UK Slugs.  They better not be coming here!
     
     
     
    I may revert back to my slug related childhood nightmares!
     
    ~ D
    July 02

    Thanks for Lunch

    Two great things happened this week!

    1) K's meds started working, I don't have a battle every single day

    2) L took me too lunch and we caught up (thanks for lunch in case I forgot)

    Actually, now that i think about it... lots of good things happened this week

    3) D ~ one of my best friends from college ~ had a birthday party at the zoo (no, I won't tell her age)

    4) I went to my moms house and got to see my sister, uncle, and met my nephews Bride (they are getting married next week)

    5) I had not one but two coffee drinks today (ok one was a store bought frap, but hey i am being positive)

    6) I touched base with several other relatives through im/facebook

    7) Met someone in person who i have been chatting with in mail

    Phew!

    What a busy week.  ;)

    ~ D ~

    March 28

    Medicine woes

    B (11) and K (10) have had some serious issues to deal with in the past.  I am finally working with a medical professional who seems to understand how much of a struggle it is for me and the kids.

    We are experimenting with different treatments for both kids.  Essential both kids have some form of ADD or ADHD, but with both of them it is not all that is going on.  With B the concern is that he also has a touch of Aspergar's, the belief is that it is neurological.

    K recently started meds for ADHD; in the past when we have had her tested the doctors were sure it was not an issue. However, the new doctor decided we should try a med trial.  We did and at the second set her teachers noticed a good deal of improvement in her at school.  The improvement was so significant that they strongly encouraged me to continue it.

    The second issue we are struggling with K is that she has very little control over her emotions or actions.  She gets into a mean/defiant mode and even though she recognizes it, she can't control it.  It seems to be anger, lashing out, guilt, then an tears and recriminations.

    She is telling me now that she can't go to school without taking her meds, because her teacher will send her home.  I sent her off to school and sent an e-mail to her teacher.

    Can the school send her home for that?  If the do, what are they teaching her?  How do I handle when she refuses to do something with out one of us coming away mentally or physically bruised?

    ~ D ~ 

    February 07

    Talking about Baby found alive in field after tornado - Life- msnbc.com

    Nice to find something hopefull and miraculous in the news.  It does not mention if the baby has other relatives to take care of it.  Hopefully there will be some follow up.  

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    Baby found alive in field after tornado - Life- msnbc.com
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    November 30

    Talking about Sudan...

    Just when I think the world can't get any more insane, a women is convicted of naming a teddy bear and insulting the muslim community.  She gets 15 days in jail, and expelled from the country.

    That is not the end of the insanity, now there is a huge protest in Sudan that she should be executed.

    Quote

    "Gibbons had one of her 7-year-old students bring in a teddy bear, then asked the class to name it and they chose the name Muhammad, a common name among Muslim men."

    Sudan protesters seek Briton's execution - Africa - msnbc.com

    Note to self: Visting Sudan would probably not be a good idea.  I might find myself in jail after cracking a joke. ~ d ~


    November 29

    Customer Service A+'s

    My diet is going really well.  As of this morning 9 lbs, fully clothed :) I don't usually weigh myself fully clothed, so I anticipate that tomorrows weigh in will be a little better.

    I love these chocolate caramel bars.  I made my 2nd order to Weight Watchers site a couple weeks ago.  To my surprise it took forever to get here, the first shipment was FAST!

    I investigated and found out it was delivered over a week ago to my front porch!

    Another package was also late, so I took a look at the tracking site.  It too was left on my front porch.

    I reported both packages missing, and most likely stolen (the news has been reporting that deliveries on doorsteps have been stolen lately).

    The other package was through LaToys Etcetera on Amazon.  In case you are curious I ordered the Playmobil Princess Advent Calendar.

    I called the companies, and both of them are sending me replacements for free.  I did not expect that, it certainly was not there fault my packages were stolen.

    A+++++ for them

    ~ d~

    November 13

    So far, so good...

    I have been dieting for 5 days now.  I am only supposed to weigh myself once a week, but I cheated this morning :) Almost 5 lbs!  I could easily fit into pants that were a struggle two weeks ago!!

    So far it has been easy to stick too.  The whole point system is working for me, mostly because so many foods come pre-pointed.  Yes for now I am eating a lot of frozen foods, but as my point count goes up as I lose more weight I am hoping that I can eat what I make for the kids more often. 

    There are three brand names in the stores I have found that list WW pt's - Smart ones, Lean Cuisine (LC) and Healthy Choices (HC).  I have not seen Smart Ones on sale, so have not bought any yet.

    So what have I been eating?

    Some of my favorites:

    Chicken Club Panini - http://www.leancuisine.com/Products/Details.aspx?ProductID=10620

    Cheese Lasagna with Chicken Scaloppini - http://www.leancuisine.com/Products/Details.aspx?ProductID=11

    Country breaded chicken: http://www.healthychoice.com/products/ew_product_detail.jsp?m=products&s=Meals&t=Complete%20Selections&ProductId=1709&Product=Country%20Breaded%20Chicken&ProductTypeId=44&IngredientId=14&RegionId=1&ProductCatId=12&ProductSubCatId=2

    Four cheese manicotti (yuck on the dessert!):

    http://www.healthychoice.com/products/ew_product_detail.jsp?m=products&s=Meals&t=Complete%20Selections&ProductId=1722&Product=Four%20Cheese%20Manicotti&ProductTypeId=44&IngredientId=17&RegionId=7&ProductCatId=12&ProductSubCatId=2

    I defiantly like LC's Panini better then HC's so far.

     

    ~ d ~